Hillsborough AYSO Region 110
PO Box 117669
Burlingame CA 94011-7669
The national media have focused on the negative, even violent, behavior of players, coaches and parents involved in youth sports. To counteract this trend, AYSO coaches and parents work together to make AYSO a Kids Zone – a place where our kids can have fun and learn good sportsmanship.
We believe that parents are role models for the kids, and that overzealous adult behavior is totally inappropriate. We need your help to make sure AYSO players, coaches and parents never slip into a "win at all costs" mindset.
Here are some specific ways you can set a good example for your children:
Conversations before the games
• Tell your child you love him/her regardless of the outcome.
• Tell him or her "Go for it, give it your best shot and have fun!"
During the game
• Understand that kids are over-stimulated during games. The coach may be giving instructions, opponents and teammates are talking, the crowd is cheering, and the referee is blowing the whistle. Do not yell instructions to your child during the game because it only adds to the confusion. Sometimes the best thing you can do as a parent is to be quiet.
• Cheer and acknowledge good plays by both teams.
• Don't criticize a coach or a referee. All our coaches and referees have volunteered their time to help make your child's youth soccer experience a positive one. They need your support, even when they make mistakes.
After the game
• Thank the officials for doing a difficult job.
• Thank the coaches for their efforts. Understand that after a difficult loss is not a good time to question a coach.
• Thank your opponents for a good game.
• Congratulate your child and his or her teammates for their efforts.
• Compliment individual players on good plays they made in the game.
During the car ride home
• Point out a good play your child made during the game.
• Avoid criticizing or correcting mistakes.
• Ask open-ended questions about how the game was played rather than how many points were scored, for example:
"Did you have fun?"
"Did you give it your best effort?"
"What did you learn from the game?"
"What was the best play you made and how did it feel?"
"Did you bounce back from your mistakes?"